Secret red pill knowledge: men are picky, women are not the choosers

There are many so-called red pill concepts which have never been brought out into the manosphere. For those of you not familiar with these concepts, the red pill is a group of ideas about women and the man-woman romantic/sexual relationship dynamic. The manosphere is a term for a loosely connected online community which talks about red pill concepts.

I first want to say that I generally oppose the red pill and manosphere and I will certainly talk about the reasons why in the future. In general, I oppose their ideas on the grounds that they blame women and not men. The greater burden and responsibility actually rests on men. With only a few exceptions such as Elliott Hulse and Yogioabs, I do not participate in their community.

A few blogs ago, I brought out some information from the Testament of Reuben and I will go into that further in a future blog. For now, lets look at some verses in Ecclesiasticus (Sirach) in the Apocrypha.

To begin, the red pill community observes a recent trend where women have had very high standards. They notice that women want a man of a certain height, certain income, etc., and have shown videos of women referring to endless lists of qualities that they look for in a man. But interestingly, what does the bible have to say about this?

Ecc 36:21 “A woman will receive every man, yet is one daughter better than another.”

To clarify, I use the KJV version but we can look at the NRSV:

“A woman will accept any man as a husband, but one girl is preferable to another.”

and the GNB:

“A woman has to take any man as a husband, but a man must choose his wife carefully.”

Most red pillers would be shocked to see this, and I was amazed as well, but everything is consistent when you look into this further. I agree with their sentiment as women have turned down advances from the most godly men I know and it can be incredibly difficult for a godly man to find a wife. That would have been absolutely unheard of not too long ago.

It turns out that everything has been inverted in modern society. Men were never supposed to spend so much of their time and energy in this red pill struggle. A man is to work and then take a wife when he is ready, and the wife is to rejoice that she was chosen:

Ecc 15:2 “…and receive him (with complete joy) as a wife married of (as) a virgin.”

I get the picture of a virgin bride, enraptured with joy at the sight of her husband who chose her. We see this same picture all throughout scripture, a young woman who lives to be chosen and to be united with her husband.

But men weren’t meant to be sitting in expectation, wondering about this woman or that woman. Wondering how to attract women and the like. We were meant to be more like Issachar, who:

Testament of Issachar, v. 28 “Therefore, when I was thirty-five years old, I took to myself a wife, for my labour wore away my strength, and I never thought upon pleasure with women; but owing to my toil, sleep overcame me.”

Issachar’s life was devoted to his work and to his God.

So where did we go wrong? It turns out that in the patriarchal system, women were never meant to choose their husbands. Now don’t get me wrong, when Isaac approached Rebekah to take her as his wife, her family asked her in Genesis 24:58 “will you go with this man?” No man wants to be with a woman who objects to him. Men need to give women that dignity. But we’ve gone really off base in current times. Marriage was never meant to be simply be a union of pleasure. Its a commitment. Our disney culture has deceived us greatly and we now pay for it. Women in particular have been fed this lie. Men on the other hand have not been taught how to be men. We now pay for it, with broken marriage after broken marriage, and many people incredibly lonely.

Love is an action, not a feeling. But that’s another topic. For now, I just want to show the way that it was meant to be, and how God wants it to be.

Ecc 7:25 “Marry (marry off) thy daughter, and so shalt thou have performed a weighty matter: but give her to a man of understanding.”

So it was the father who was to be the arbiter of who his daughter would marry. He was to screen potential suitors and he was to pick a godly man for his daughter. In general I do find that men are better judges of character of other men than women, but in general men are responsible for the direction of society and the preservation of their family line. It was men who were told to leave their father and mother and cleave to their wives. Hence, men need to establish order here and fulfill their mandate. Until this is restored, we will unfortunately continue in this backwards, inverted society and men and women will continue to suffer for it.